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Generative Interactions
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Pattern Heart
The most important interactions in a wise democracy—especially conversations—are those that generate more wholesome under- standing, relationship, and/or possibility. So engage diverse people and perspectives in high quality social interactions—like DNA strands recombining in sexual reproduction —to produce novel outcomes that serve the well-being of everyone involved.
Some related patterns: 8 Circles and Cycles 33 Feeling Heard 54 Multi-Modal Intelligence 64 Powerful Questions 71 Realizing Essential Aspirations 79 Spaces for Dialogue and Collaboration 88 Using Diversity and Disturbance Creatively
Generative Interactions – going deeper …
This is an edited version of the video on this page.
There are conversations and there are conversations. We see all kinds of small talk, gossip, fights and whatnot. There are discussions back and forth. Interestingly, the idea of “discussion” is related to “percussion”: the Latin root “cussion” implies “hitting”. So many discussions are like a ping pong game with people hitting ideas back and forth and using ideas to hit each other. Then there are dialogues which are more like a fluid flowing of ideas where people add to the evolving meaning and creatively expand and alter it. All these kinds of conversation have important roles in a community or society.
The most important conversations in a wise democracy are those that generate more wholesome understanding, relationship and/or possibility. At the end of such a conversation you and I would understand each other better, or you and I or either of us would understand more about the situation that we were exploring – really understand it – and that understanding would help us in a wholesome way. In other words, such a conversation helps us engage in creative, productive, healthy ways with each other or with the topic.
If I end up thinking that you’re an asshole, that does not constitute a generative conversation. If I understand that your ways of behaving to me – the behaviors I don’t like – come from your past experience that is overwhelming to you, that evokes compassion in me. I end up with a mixture of understanding and relationship that is more wholesome. I know how to relate to you in ways that are more life-serving than before we had the conversation, or than if I concluded that you’re an asshole.
So anything that heals or improves understanding or relationship or possibility, I consider to be generative.
If thanks to our conversation I conclude that it’s just not going to work, that our relationship or project is a disaster, that I don’t have any more energy to put into it, then that is not a very generative conversation. It may be true – it may involve a lot of understanding – but it has destroyed possibility. So we’re thinking here of conversations which are inspiring, which open up new paths, where you go, “Wow! We could do that! That is amazing! And that came out of talking together!” That kind of thing makes a generative conversation.
Video Introduction (10 min)
Examples and Resources
- World Cafe
Link - Open Space Technology
Link-CII - Circle process
Link-CII
Link-Static1 - Fishbowl
Link - Dynamic Facilitation
Link-CII - Appreciative Inquiry
Link - The Third Side Link
- Community Visioning
Link - Open Dialogue (participatory therapy) – site Link, video Link
- Story Bridge Link
- Clean Language Link
I include World Café because of its interactivity, because it is creating conversations that matter, and because it uses high quality questions that stimulate people’s passions.
Open Space is generative by following people’s passions.
Circle process generates thoughtfulness to the extent people are speaking from their center, from the center of the group, into the center of the group. That dynamic is generative.
Fishbowl is generative having populations listen to each and take turns listening to each other.
Dynamic Facilitation is an evocative creative process that almost always creates something new out of a conflict situation.
Appreciative Inquiry is generative partly because it is focused on what you want, when things have worked, etc. It is raising up past positive experiences and expectations into current reality and awareness.
Community Visioning involves us all looking for what is it that we all can be excited about for our community, what we can share and work towards.
Dialogue and deliberation are dynamic processes which can be empathy-enhancing, relationship-changing, problem-solving, action-planning, organization-developing, community-building, conflict-resolving, skill developing, prejudice reducing, consciousness-raising, and more! I came in contact with dialogue methodology by attending a seminar with Bill Isaccs, the author of the book “Dialogue- The art of thinking together. I have applied this methodology internationally in the field of standarisation, which resulted in the following headline in the ISO Magazine “ISO is listening for the first time!” Later I became familiar also with the conversations between David Bohm and Krishnamurti, which illustrate how conversations can create common understanding in spite of cultural differences.